Tuesday 12 June 2018

What disgusts you the most about people?

True Story
One day I received a message on Quora which said “Mam I need your help”. Message was from a guy nearly 18.
“How can I help you”, I replied .
“Can I cry my heart out here please”, he messaged.
“Are you okay?” I replied.
Then he told me that he and his sister used to live in a different city ,away from parents for studies. He added how her sister died in an accident which he later came to know was a suicide. He mentioned about some mail that his sister left for him before suicide. He told me that his sister was being molested and raped by someone and she did suicide because she was not able to handle it any more. He told me how alone and depressed he feels,how much he cries everyday. He said he haven’t told anyone about this. Upon asking why was he telling me all this he said he don’t know why but he thinks of me as his sister because her name was also “Aastha”.
His Story touched me. I felt bad for him as well as his sister who has been through so much. I asked him so many questions if her sister mentioned the name of that rapist and many more but all of them were ignored saying “Di I am happy that we met. Please be with me forever.”
I could smell something fishy. I checked him out on facebook and now truth was in front of my eyes. It was pretty clear from his profile that he has only 2 brothers and no sister . I could see the pictures of some cousin sisters of him and I saved them on my phone.
Later I asked him if he could show me a picture of him with his sister and that person went so down that he sent me picture of his cousin sister who was alive living a great life.
I was red with anger that how can someone go so down that he faked so much and why Just to talk with a girl?
I bursted. I told him that I know the truth and it’s high time he told me why he did all these…
He gave another fake reason that he was being ignored by the family because he’s not good looking and he said no one loves me. I asked him what was the point of lying to someone who is completely a stranger but he kept lying again and again and as a result I blocked him.
What disgusts me?
People taking things like rape, molestation as joke. People know that these topics are very sensitive and they start fooling people around. Dude go and get a life. It is not okay to create false stories to get friends. It is not at all okay to play with someone’s emotions for our own sake.
This is sick!
Edit : After writing this answer have received many messages saying they received the same message from a guy and to our surprise most of the girls have received exactly the same message from the same guy and he keeps on changing his sister’s name.
Sometimes it’s Aastha and some times its Mirali, Diksha, Nishita, Divya and what not. It depends on the name of the girl whom he’s messaging.
I guess he has serious mental issues.

What are some of the best feelings in life?

True Story
Last week i went to my boyfriend’s place and my mom somehow came to know about it from my location notification. ( My mom is a hifi techie) .
She called my up at 11 PM and asked me where am i and she even sent me a screenshot of my location reflecting in her screen. If the place would have been something different,it wouldn’t matter to my parents that much, but since my location was my boyfriend’s location, they were thinking all wrongs.
So,after this incident,the next day morning, my father called up my boyfriend and said,even if you people meet, dont do such things that would ruin their societal status.
Next ,my dad started chatting with me in whatsapp and asked me to spill the truth, if i have went to meet him or not. And, ofcourse, i didnt accept. So, he sent me a boarding pass( which i left at home mistakenly, and he got hold of it) of last year where i went to my boyfriend’s place.
He caught me hand-in-hand, yet he made me understand a lot of things like a protective father would do. And i cried the whole day out of guilt.
But, my father,from the next moment, called me up at night,like he regularly does and spoke to me about how was my day at office and did i have dinner or not.
He was like, he never knew i lied to him.
On the contrary, i was very nervous to speak to my mom, coz i thought ,she would ask thousands of questions regarding the incident. But, no, we spoke for a freaking 1 hour in the weekends, chatting about her sister taking a trip and what she is cooking for lunch and many more.
Thats my bestest feeling, my parents make me feel every time. Any bad day, and they are always there. Even my school friends call them up when they face some trouble in thier personal life. They are some amazing persons and i feel very lucky to be thier daughter.

What is your biggest mistake or regret?

True Story
Visiting a female office colleague in odd hours.
Going anonymous for obvious reasons. This happened 3 months back. This girl joined my office just few days back in my team. She didn’t used to talk to many people just used to talk to me since she felt that I was one of the decent person she could find in office. I was on seventh cloud girl complimenting me this way. I didn’t mentioned but I had a big crush on her since I first saw in office. We started getting along together well like going for dinner, bike rides, talking all shit and what not. We were like newly born BFFs.
One day I was watching movie late night around 2:30 am on my laptop and a message popped out of her.
She: Hey wassup?
Me: I’m good. You haven’t slept yet?
She: No I am hungry want to eat something.
Me: At this hour? Order something if there is some restaurant open at this time.
She: How can I eat alone. I don’t eat food alone. I’d rather not eat anything and stay hungry.
Me: What why do you wanna stay hungry just order and eat something.
She: No i cannot eat alone.
Me: Shall I come? Let’s eat together?
She: Yes please come. I’ll order something.
I got her address booked an Uber and reached her place at around 3 am. I was feeling wierd visiting a girl that too this late time. As I entered in first thing I said was, “Look this is wierd me coming to your house this late.”, to which she replied “ Why are you overthinking too much you are my friend you can come any time.”
We had dinner and watched a half completed movie and it was 4: 15 I think in the morning when I said I must leave. She insisted I must stay and should leave in the morning. This made me a bit uncomfortable but then I decided to stay back. We were sleeping together. And we were starting to get closer. Started holding hands, playing with hands, playing with hairs, kisses on forehead. But yeah no sex just gentle romantic cuddling.
This incident made me uncomfortable while talking to her and facing her but eventually things started getting better with time.
Some weeks down the line I was going for tea with another of my colleague. The very next day I got a comment from her “I don’t know with how many girls you have slept with”. I got numerous comments after that day regarding my character. This is something I am not. I loved her and still love her but her comments I get regarding my character is what breaks me from the core. I probably would not have been hurt so much if I was the person she think I am but I am not that person. This is probably the biggest mistake of my life. If I visited her she feels I visit every other girl. I wish I could some how get over her feeling. She feels that we are still good friends, yes we are but I am still broken from inside after my character was questioned. I don’t think things can ever be normal.
So my biggest regret? Why did I visited her that night? Why didn’t I left after having dinner?
But since whatever happens, happens for the best. There’s something good coming after this. Atleast an experience I’ll not forget for my life.
Cheers!!

Saturday 9 June 2018

What is it that Indian parents are collectively doing wrong?

True  Incident
Yesterday I went to watch Raazi with my cousins. All of us were enjoying the movie when I sensed a jerk in my chair. Someone was kicking my chair from behind. The first thought that came to my mind was that it must be some pervert doing all this. It stopped and I thought that I will give him a good scolding if he does that again.
After some time I again felt that someone was kicking my chair. I was very much irritated by now. I turned back and to my surprise it was a small boy merely 6 to 7 years old. I calmed down.
There was a couple sitting in the row behind mine and the kid was theirs. I didn’t want to scold the child so I asked him politely to keep his legs back.
I again went on to enjoy the movie only when I again felt the same jerk. I turned back and this time I asked his mother to make him sit properly. I was shocked on seeing the mother’s reaction.
Forget about scolding the child, she didn’t even bother to ask him to sit properly. Not once did she care to ask her child to stop disturbing others. All she said was, “baccha hai abhi” (he is just a kid now). And the boy kept on disturbing not just me but everybody around throughout the movie.
Yes exactly, he is a kid, he doesn’t know what is right and what is wrong. But you are not a kid. If parents will not teach their children how to behave in public then who else will. If you do not correct your child’s mistake at the right time, if you do not tell him how to behave in public places, he will obviously think that it’s okay to kick others chair in a cinema hall. How will he realize that it’s wrong if you will just smile at his mistakes.
Everybody loves their children and nobody likes scolding them but what is wrong must be corrected there and then.
I remember as a child how my parents would correct me everytime I talked rudely to elders or when I didn’t keep my plate in the sink myself after dinner at relatives place, when I didn’t wish my elders or when I created nuisance when I went out for dinner.
So it’s the parents responsibility to teach their children the right way to act in public. No matter how much you love your child, if you love them, you can tolerate their misbehavior why would anybody else in the cinema hall tolerate it?
People come for a movie to relax and spend some quality time with their friends, family etc. Parents should make sure that their children do not spoil the leisure time of others.

Friday 8 June 2018

What would you do if someone walked up to you, squeezed your breasts, and walked away?

True Incident 
I had just completed my JEE and my junior college had hosted a farewell party. The time scheduled was 6 p.m onwards. My parents insisted on not going since it was too late. But it was the final time I was going to meet all my friends together, so I still went, against their wishes.
The event was great and ended at around 9 p.m. I left as soon as it ended and took a share rickshaw till my home. I was seated in the middle while to my right was an older uncle who looked like he was in his 60’s and to my left was a man who was around 25–30 years. Let us call him .
In sometime, I realised that X’s elbow was touching my breast. I adjusted myself and distanced myself from him. Then I called up my dad to tell him I’m on my way. I realised that X’s elbow was again touching my breast. This time I asked him to shift a bit to which he readily agreed. I thought all that happened before was a genuine mistake as he seemed quite polite too. Both, Uncle and X asked the rickshaw driver to stop at a particular signal and the uncle paid and left. X was trying to find money from his pocket which was mainly change. As soon as he paid the money, something unexpected happened.
He squeezed my left breast, got out of the rick and started running away, all in the blink of an eye!. I was not sure what just happened, but after I realized, I started crying. The rickshaw driver saw what happened and started running behind the guy. I was there in the rick, distraught and crying my heart out because this was the worst thing happened to me till date.
After sometime, the rickshaw driver returned and said that he couldn’t catch X but he asked me to come to the police station and lodge a complaint against him and he agreed to be the witness. But I was too scared, since my parents had already warned me not to go out so late. So I asked him to drop me to my house. I’ve even hid this from my parents till date. This is one of the worst things that can happen to a woman for sure.